Wisdom Capture Stories: "The Goal is Not to Admit Your Mistake..."

I’m a huge fan of mentors; I think everyone should have two or three. I look for people who are a couple seasons of life down the road from me and who are straight shooters. But often we end up looking for folks that tell us what we want to hear, rather than what we need to hear.

As I sat across the table from my mentor in a typical New York diner, I shared openly and honestly about challenges I was facing in my everyday leadership roles. I’ve always prided myself on being an open book, unafraid of being vulnerable. With that, I boldly shared a series of mistakes I had been making, while making sure to pat myself on the back for the courage it took to share such exposing flaws. He politely listened, nodding his head in compassion for all the struggles I had to endure. As I finished my verbal dissertation, the thousand pound gorilla I had been carrying on my back seemed to climb off. After all, I did what I needed to do. I had admitted my shortcomings. It was now my mentor’s turn to reassure and encourage me.

Josh, he said:

"The goal is not to admit your mistake; the goal is to stop doing it."


A knife went straight into my gut! Ouch! I had just taken a courageous step. Admitting my mistakes was no easy task. But he was right and looking back now, the knife in the gut was not his dismissal of my vulnerability; rather, it was a challenge to not stop there. We should never be satisfied with simply admitting our mistakes. We have to move past and begin the transformation into a better person who no longer makes those mistakes.


Are there any areas in your life that you need to move past just admitting and begin to start changing?